The Mindset to Attract Soul-Stirring Love This Year (Step 4 of 5)



This is the 4th in a series of 5 Steps to Soul-Stirring Love in 2023. Keep an eye on this blog for the other steps.

Yes, there is absolutely a right mindset to attract love. Let’s get into it.

So, when I was growing up, I remember the messaging from my role models (my mom, dad, grandparents) was for me to “focus on your education.”

This messaging was solid. Good.

Throughout elementary school and then high school, and then college, it was drummed into me: 

“Get your education, make good grades, so that you can get a good job and make a good income so you’ll….

NEVER have to depend on a man.”

So you’ll…

“Always have something to fall back on if he leaves you.”

Can you relate?

And this advice comes from a very good place. 

Our ancestors want us to have more financial security than they did.

More opportunity to use our God-given gifts.


Which is wonderful.

What they didn’t tell you is the problem with ONLY focusing and prioritizing education and career can leave you, in your child bearing years… worried that it’s too late.

Or going from relationship to relationship with no marriage in sight, because you have to “keep focusing on your education/career.”

What Is the Mindset to Attract Soul-Stirring Love?

I remember after getting my Doctor of Chiropractic degree, feeling proud of myself and my accomplishment, but having a major emotional storm because I ALSO wanted true love, marriage and family. 

I wanted it ALL.

Another thing society doesn’t tell you is that you actually CAN do BOTH: Get an education and a great career… AND learn how to intentionally choose the man who’d be an excellent fit for you. 

This is going to require a new type of thinking on your part.

This is what we call BOTH/AND THINKING.

Or, ABUNDANCE thinking.

You see, if you’re thinking you can’t do BOTH at the same time, you’re coming from a SCARCITY mindset in your life.

It’s actually very LINEAR thinking. Linear thinking is a result of overly focusing on a masculine or patriarchal line of thinking.

Don’t get me wrong, there’s a place in our lives, every day, for linear and logical thinking.

When you’re flying in an airplane, you want the pilot to think in a linear and logical way. 

You want that pilot to understand the laws of gravity, aeronautics and understand lift, thrust, drag and weight and a whole bunch of engineering and technical things. 

But here’s the problem: When you’re thinking this way and applying this to your love life, you are BLOCKING THE MAGIC. You are BLOCKING YOUR FEMININE RADIANCE AND POWER. 

How To Adopt the Mindset to Attract Love

So, what to do?

Start right here and right now to adopt the BOTH/AND mindset to your life.

Here’s an affirmation to get you started:

I release linear thinking and embrace BOTH/AND thinking now!



Feel and acknowledge in your body what those words start lighting up within you.

Thinking this way may feel weird at first because you’re going against the status quo. 

So, Step #4 to intentionally becoming a soulmate magnet:

Embrace abundance thinking.

Catch this article for the last of the Steps to Attracting Soul Stirring Love in 2023. And if you haven’t read Step #3, here it is.